Eggshell People
It was a simple game, just for fun. A group of us had gathered around the table looking for a way to connect. As the fun continued, one person uttered an off-handed comment on a current event. Unaware of the situation, another person inquired about their meaning. Then it happened, a third voice was heard.
“How can you not know this? Ugh, do you live under a rock? Ignorance is no excuse.”
An awkward pause in the game as all attention went to the embarrassed person. Someone said, “Let’s keep playing.” The game continued but the delightful chatter had ceased. We half-heartedly moved forward after that verbal attack.
It was a stunning moment, as the humiliated person tried to recover. This wasn’t the first time such an exchange had occurred. She reminded herself to step carefully, as if on eggshells, because she knew she couldn’t do anything right in the other’s eyes.
Eggshell people are always right, easily offended, and often judgmental. Before we jump to conclusions, understand that these behaviors are present in all generations.
The upheaval in society in recent years has caused fractures in our relationships. This is nothing new, but social media allows us to lash out without directly confronting the personal side of the issues. A cataclysmic earthquake of contrasting ideas has splintered people apart, leaving a wake of loneliness and even despair. Silently suffering alone, many wonder what has happened to the world.
People on both sides of the rift are crying out, “Where are you, God?”
His reply is simple: “I’m right here.”
I am flummoxed by people’s behavior. Trust me, I have strong opinions, but I don’t understand the anger thrown around. It seems to have died down, so I’m hoping it is safe to poke my head out of hiding, and say people are more important than well, everything.
In 2024, we will look at relationships and find ways to strengthen them.
First and foremost: If you’ve been hurt by someone, I am so sorry. I pray you find forgiveness for them. Forgiveness is a choice – could you make that choice today? Depending on the depth of your hurt it may take time for your feelings to catch up with your will.
If we have hurt someone, we need to humbly seek them out and ask them for forgiveness. Turning to God, we quote King David in Psalm 51, “create in me a clean heart, Oh God; and renew a right spirit in me.” It must start with me – can you imagine if each of us had this attitude?
With this humble attitude, God will meet us and empower us. He will teach us and guide us with winsome words and actions to care for others in our sphere of influence. This is hard but people are important. May each of us embrace meekness as we help build God’s Kingdom.
Zephaniah 3:12
Christian Standard Bible 12 I will leave a meek and humble people among you, and they will take refuge in the name of the Lord.
