The Holy Anticipation of Hospitality
Loneliness can cripple us, especially during transition periods in our lives. As we age, our opportunities to develop new relationships decrease as we interact with fewer people. This, coupled with the divisive nature of our current culture, pushes people away from engaging with others. We fear rejection and anticipate an adverse response to reaching out.
But the Lord calls us to share hospitality with others so that we don’t live this life alone. The generous reception of others is an ancient practice that needs to continue today. Simply put, we have a choice. We tend to become self-centered, fixating on our own needs and limitations, allowing our insecurities to take control. Or we can extend a hand, loosening the grip of insecurity, and we invite in. The effect of the invitation is immaterial. It is simply the right thing to do.
Jesus demonstrated this to the end. He recognized his mother Mary’s need even as He suffered on the cross. John the disciple took Mary into his home after Jesus’ death and resurrection. Instructed by Jesus from the cross, he cared for Mary as if she were his mother. “When Jesus saw his mother standing there beside the disciple he loved, he said to her, ‘Dear woman, here is your son.” 27 And he said to this disciple, “Here is your mother.” And from then on this disciple took her into his home.” John 19:26-27 (NLT)
John honored this request by taking Mary into his home, where she lived for the rest of her life. He honored her as a good son would, ensuring her needs were met. She continued to meet with the disciples and waited for the promised Holy Spirit. God provided for her as she joined the others in constant prayer.
Scripture reminds us of the importance of extending love to all we meet. This powerful message is one form of loving our neighbor. It goes against the idea of looking out for oneself first; it can feel risky, but we are to do it anyway.
The next time you are in a social setting, look around for those who look a little lost. Say hello and make a little small talk. Invite them to join you and your friends. Don’t worry about their response. Their acceptance or rejection of your offer is their responsibility, not yours. Remember, everyone appreciates kind words and a gentle welcome.
The need for relationships is at the center of our beings. We desire community and connection. Someone at the beginning of your journey at your church stepped forward and shared hospitality. What a gift! A God-centered, precious extension of His Holy Spirit from one person to another.
Our culture skews hospitality into visions of perfection. We are influenced by images of immaculate homes posted on the internet. Subtly, we are encouraged to buy the newest in-season items in the year’s colors. But hospitality isn’t just physical preparation but spiritual anticipation for those who need us. It is more than opening our homes; it is giving space for others to be seen and heard.
Our goal is not to impress our guests but to meet the needs of weary friends. It may be to prepare a meal and a space for them to talk. It can vary from an hour of our time to welcoming them into our family.
Looking back on your life, who do you see that God provided for you? What is one way you can show support to either a younger or older person in your life? Make a point to live it out today.
