Empty Nest Full Life
Jesus promised an abundant life!
September is a time of transition. My baby is in college. In another state! She is adjusting well and that brings me peace. We are empty-nesters. It is weird but not bad. I’ve gotten so much done this morning; it almost makes me giddy. It is quiet but it is kind of nice.
So what now? I’ve been parenting for twenty-four years. Yes, I know I’m still a parent but it is different now. I asked friends on Facebook and received wonderful suggestions:
Laura said “In my experience, although you want to provide your adult children a place to sleep when home on break etc, don't make their room into a shrine for them. Re-claim your house...it helps prepare you emotionally for when they leave the nest permanently.”
Barb said “Enjoy it! They are never totally gone. They come back and they often bring others with them that fill your nest even fuller! Concentrate on making your marriage even stronger and your home a place they want to come back to.”
Linda said “Build your social circle. Spend time at friend's homes and welcome them in yours.”
Kim said “As long as they are happy and thriving so will you 😊 enjoy your new chapter of life ❤ texting, FaceTime, visits both ways are always welcome and comforting, especially for the mama 😉 I immediately redid all 3 girls rooms, they still have a place to sleep here but it's my space now ‼”
Robin and Val both said “Take lots of vacations...lol!”
Debbie said “Get "10 Great Dates for Empty Nesters"”
Great ideas! Thanks everyone.
My empty nest also gives me time to continue in my passion: mentoring. Sunday, at church, I was still reeling from taking both girls to their perspective Universities. Caitlin, one of my mentees, surprised me at church. She is now a nurse and works nights. Getting to church is a challenge with that schedule. It was so nice to see her and catch up. We chatted over lunch and I was once again reminded that I will never be far from a daughter. As I continue to build relationships with Spiritual daughters. (See Spiritual Kids for more on this.)
Jesus promised that He came to give an abundant life. (John 10:10) That promise is for life. To me, this means a life full of relationships. Jesus loves people so I love people. Isaiah prophesized about this in Isaiah 54. He encourages the “childless” woman to enlarge her home. And look at this is verse 5.
“For your Creator will be your husband; the Lord of Heaven’s Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.”
“Your Creator is your husband”. Now go with me here. God will determine our spiritual children. He doesn’t desire us to be lonely or without purpose. He desires us to build His Kingdom. We will always have an impact as we follow His lead. Pay attention. He may be trying to fill your “home” or your heart with whom He picked for you.
Later this week, I will meet another young woman. She is a young Mom growing in her leadership skills. She needs me and now I see I need her. Isn’t it lovely how God works these things out? My home may be emptier but my life is full.
How about you are you looking for a way to live a full life? Contact me and we will talk!