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Six Steps To Keep Your Cool

on Thursday, 07 August 2014. Posted in Blog

Self-control and your family.

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All I wanted was a family day. Nothing fancy, just time together. With adult children in the house we recognize their independence but they are still part of the family. Getting everyone together at one time is a bit like herding cats. In the process of organizing, I heard more than once: “Mom are you stressed?”

There was a time when I was in control. I managed everyone’s schedule. As they grew they took over their schedule. This is how it should be. This is how you train a child for adulthood. This is how you keep your family happily connected.

Remember the only person we can control is ourselves.

Self-control, how hard can it be? It involves ourselves and keeping it together. Simple right?  

  1. Pray: Remember the Holy Spirit gives us this fruit when we spend time with Him.
  2. Communicate: Tell everyone in your group your expectations. I have decided I am going to use a group text in the future.
  3. Be specific: Give them ALL the information: who, what, where, when, and how!
  4. Give them a responsibility. Responsibility builds ownership.
  5. Give them grace: Treat adult children like adults, even when they don’t act like it.  *Children want respect? Act in a respectful manner*
  6. Breathe, pray, and relax. I have learned not to lose my temper but my children still pick up on my anxiety level when chaos invades. I am working on going with the flow.

If you are breaking a cycle of bad behavior, give your family time to adjust.  Exhibiting self-control once will not make all your poor choices in the past go away. They may have forgiven you but they need time to trust again.  Trust takes time. Your promise of change is proven by action.

Our family had a great day on Sunday. We made foil dinners by the lake and then to a local dairy farm for ice cream. Simple fun and no need to control anyone but me.

1 Timothy 3:11(NLT) In the same way, their wives must be respected and must not slander others. They must exercise self-control and be faithful in everything they do.


Comments (2)

  • Genine Johnson

    Genine Johnson

    07 August 2014 at 16:16 |
    Oh wow! Dear Lord, this is my goal. Thank you that you are not finishes with me yet and you won't give up on me. Thank you that through you all things are possible. I pray in Jesus Name.

    Thank you Leslie. Got to save this.
    • leslie


      07 August 2014 at 16:35 |
      Thank you Genine! I'm glad this was an encouragement.

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